Being Nee #10

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India, Just thoughts, Thoughts

Hey everyone 🙋

Thursday 20/12/18
12.40 p.m

( Before I begin, I am at an eye screening camp..at a steel plant in a remote area of Andhra Pradesh,with a staff of 600 employees ..the majority were screened over the past two days..today is the last day, so basically I am jobless…to be read as no patients😛 so I type away)

As I sit here at an eye camp site, lost in thoughts…surrounded by trees..machinery..mountains..open spaces and a steel plant amidst all, I ponder away..
A day before it was all windy with mist and a day later the same skies have cleared up..

The sun shines brightly through the trees and it’s a warm feeling..not hot but warm…a mix of chill and warmth prevails!!

A few scattered trees rather shrubs, winter flowers just blooming here and there..open windy spaces all of which is making me reflect on the year that was..
I have made soo many new acquaintances if not besties..
A year which saw me climbing up the career ladder…excelling in what I do…overcoming my fears and with it even having to stay away from my lil one..
A year can make so much difference..getting to know different people..their mentalities..how diplomatic or how naive people are..
Gelling along with young and old at the same time..
Yes thoughts overflow and as I pen ( rather type it down) I am still pondering what the next year has in store for me..

A part of which I know I will make it happen and a part which is unknown..
“Just go with the flow” being my tagline which has changed, thanks to a book I am reading currently which states “Don’t go with the flow…be the flow”
Oh awesome I thought so let’s see, let ME make and be the flow the coming year..
Let’s see what is in store for me..
Wishing all my reader Friends happiness and good times..🤗 Enjoy the pre Christmas blast!! While I still ponder away…😉

That’s me Nee!!

Love marriage vs Arranged marriage

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Just thoughts, Motivating

Hey everyone 🙋

Been a long time since I have posted a Sunday Gyaan so here it is, me full of thoughts, rants and gyaan overloaded…

So here is the controversial topic of Love marriage vs Arranged marriage
( LM/AM)

A lot of us have been through either of them..
To those, who have a LM, we think, Oh! what a lucky person to have found true love and then getting hitched to the same person..really wonderful!!

To the arranged marriage (AM) ones, it is their patience, perseverance and most importantly a belief that life will offer them with the best!!

As long as love prevails both love and arranged marriages are rosy and nice..
Once life moves on, responsibilities sink in, irrespective of whether Love marriage (LM) or an Arranged marriage (AM) problems creep in..some cope with it, some can’t..
So how does one feel about a relationship ending??

Not many talk about a break up..It’s always about giving us the eye blinding details of how perfect their marriages and relationships are..
When I asked Voldemort (of course, the one who cannot be named🙄) She was of the opinion that love marriages always fail and I, being me, Nee immediately cringed and wanted to say a biguhh Noooo!!!

I felt she was wrong!!
She told me that in love marriages they don’t care about anyone, especially about the elders/ in-laws opinions!! Whereas according to her, in arranged marriages the couple discuss with everyone in the family🙄 Hence, in AM you see very few marriages ending!!

I as usual begged to differ!!

My take on it..
First of all in India even to this day LM are a taboo, slowly people are getting used to this concept, yet the couple involved have a really tough time convincing their respective families and when such a marriage ends?? It’s disaster!!
It is not that LM end cause they (the couple concerned) don’t care about the elders opinion!! No!! In fact (in India at least) I am sure the couples having had a LM put in more effort to please the in laws cause they were never liked by them or never felt welcomed in the first place (maybe gradually later on as they start gelling with the family, things change)

In AMs, the couple’s families meet..
If there is a slight problem, the families first get involved, they sort it out for the couple..Whether the couple are at fault or not, their problems are solved by the elders..

Whereas in LMs the couples can’t go to their elders cause of shame that they are unable to handle the problems themselves and if a few courageous ones (like me😝 ) tell it out, we get to hear 🙄

“We never asked you to find each other, we never asked you to get married, you both had a LM, so sort it out your selves!!” 😕 or even more

“I told you so!!! You never listened, now face the consequences!!” 😒

So now you know what I feel..🤔

It’s my opinion entirely that people who have LM are at a more difficult situation than the AM ones, not saying that AMs have it easy, the pressure of living upto the elders expectations is too much!!

Just saying LM or AM, it’s upto the couple to work it out..very easy to say I know!!
Yes of course there are times when everyone feels like giving up then that is when the realisation of and questioning self arises🤔
So why did I like this guy or girl in the first place?? At some point in our life they have been there for us and they have mattered!!
At some point they have given us love, happiness, comfort, companionship all..
So that is why we chose to stay with them for the rest of our lives..
Problems come and go..
If one is at fault the other has to bow down and tide over it..
All I am saying is LM or AM, people need to know it isn’t easy to keep up a relationship!! especially a marriage!!
It needs to be nurtured an loved!!

Simultaneously it would be wonderful if some insensitive souls don’t give their opinion based on some irrelevant logic!!🙄

Too much of Gyaan I know..

Happy sunday everyone..have a great month and week ahead..until next time think away🤔🤗

Saturday musings🤓

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Just thoughts, Thoughts

Hey everyone 🙋

How does one feel when on a random working day, immersed in work and a hectic schedule, you pick up the phone and just mindlessly browse through Instagram just to see a mention of your ex crush’s name in one of the posts!! A long forgotten first crush!!! Who is not even in your friend list!!

The heart beats increasing and sooo very curious to know and see how that person looks after 10 years!!!Yess indeed it happened to me this morning…as I was busy scheduling my surgeries for the day and waiting for the call, I just about happened to open Instagram to see a post featuring the only crush I had ever proposed too..

Well he told me off politely giving reasons which seem soo juvenile now..but juvenile we were..all of 19 and me being daring enough to tell him I liked him..he cited cultural differences as the reason it could not happen..

One fine day I get to know he married a girl from the south, same as me..wow…the funny thing being, that girl is my husband’s friends sister and he invited my husband and me to their wedding..So techinically, indirectly I was invited to my ex crush’s wedding…whoaaaa it’s indeed a small small world after all..

Seeing him on Instagram after 10 years felt weird…ha ha ha no we don’t follow each other on any of the social medias.. a by chance post and it brought back memories on a busy working day..

I was curious to know if he has babies..how his wife looked and blah blah.. Lo behold, it was his daughter’s first birthday celebrations and I got a sneak peek at his wife too..

Of course I am a curious George, I wanted to know how she looked..better than me?? Was she pretty? What does she have that I did not have?? Was that his daughter? Whom does she look like??oh my god we both ended up having our first born as daughters and his daughter’s name rhymes with my Rhea, he he he the usual juvenile girlish things running in my mind!! Am I jealous??no not at all, I am in a happy place, happily married with a loving and caring husband who by the way is my ex crushes senior at medical school and his favourite junior!!confused???!!Mine is a long love story verry verry dramatic and bollywood film like, maybe will blog about it some day…

Coming back to my question ,dear WP friends, what would you do if you come across your ex??maybe in a picture or in person, do let me know..while meanwhile I sort my head straight and get back to work..yeah it’s Saturday,no holiday for us!!
Happy weekend all..🤗

Mother’s day thoughts

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Just thoughts

Hey everyone🙋

It’s mothers day👩
Wishes pouring in to Mom’s all over the world..and me… Well an emptiness prevails.
It’s been 18 years.. Not a day goes by without me missing my Mummy.
I still remember, as a girl in her early teens, me, cycling off to the flower shops nearby the Infant jesus church in Bangalore, picking up a bunch of chrysanthemums, to wish my mom, a very very happy mothers day and the scene would be repeated every year on her birthday.😊
The million times I fought with her and the trillion times I made up with her.
Mornings was war, clash of the titans, what with my mother running after me with a comb in one hand and a glass of milk in the other and me running away.😝
Finally she would win, ending in me gulping away the milk..😣
Scoldings would follow which was an everyday affair..🙈
“You are late today!! why do you spend so much time in front of the mirror??”
And me Nee, would make up my mind not to talk to my mom from that minute on only to be broken in a few hours span.
Scene change, come evening and the first thing I would do after coming back from school/ tuitions would be to run and hug my mom and tell her about my day as if nothing had happened,forgetting the staunch resolutions I had made in the morning, much to my dads amusement!!

I would lovingly burry my face into mummy’s tum tum and blow, tickling her and feeling all so secure..
The most safe and relaxing place in the world, my mother’s arms..

We would then go off to the temple, specially on Monday evenings followed by veggie shopping which was a fixed routine..

She would always buy me Uddina vadas ( fritters made from Urad dal) which I would gorge on with amazing homemade chutney powders/ mint chutneys, sprawled on the carpet, watching TV , with my German shepherd Rambo, by my side,who would have a literal puppy face, looking longingly at me in case I change my mind and give him a bite..
Those were the the tension/ stress free days..

Mummy would make the most amazing Methi pappu(Fenugreek daal),with yummy dried fish and Papad, she would( literally) run after me again ensuring I finish my dinner, which I had to😕 watching Malgudi days on Sony tv..
My homework all having been completed, I would laze next to mummy and watch Om Namah Shivay on Doordarshan, a serial about Lord Shiva, my childish mind completely engrossed on how Sati became Durga and hearing my mum telling me the qualities of the handsome Lord Shiva, following which she would tuck a sleepy me to bed, I would drift away without a worry in the world!!
All Tension and thoughts taken care of by my mom and the routine would begin again next day, right from waking me up to making me do my maths sums to getting me milk and ironing my school uniform, Mummy would do it all, come rain or sun, in good health or bad, Little nee was taken care off without a worry in the world.

Ahh how I wish for those days to come back again..How I wish to lie in my mummy’s arms again and be my old little self.
Mummy daddy’s little girl..
Please come back dear time, Come back for once..
So that I can relish and relive the memories again..

Psst: My mum passed away when I was 15 years old…a bad case of stage 3 breast cancer,having fought the battle for nearly 3 years..a post on that some day in the future maybe..

Ahh not wanting it to sound tooo depressing, I am celebrating mother’s day again thanks to my lil Rhea…a bundle of energy and joy…reliving the moments with her…

Have a great week ahead everyone..😊🤗

Sunday JFL!!

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Humor, Just thoughts

Hey everyone🙋

Happy May🌞

Just a quick post on how Ramayan and Mahabharat would have been in the age of smartphones!!!

These pics have been circulating everywhere so couldn’t resist sharing..

Have a fun filled week ahead everyone 🌤️

Gyaani Nee👾

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Humor, Just thoughts, Motivating

Hey everyone..🙋
Posting a sunday gyaan [Sanskrit word for wisdom…(for all the new readers)] after a really long time..
Ok so I joined back work after a long long break and how do I feel??? absolutely wonderful..love my profession!!👩‍⚕️
I thought I would have forgotten half of my knowledge and skills but sometimes I surprise my self when I am spot on with my diagnosis and end up being correct!!

Ok too much of self praise..😛
So work wise I am too happy happy..😊

Now coming to people..general human behaviour!!😖

Ahh some times I sit back and observe everyone, isn’t that normal?! Don’t we all do that? And what I have deduced so far in this span of three weeks at work is, things are not as simple or as complicated as they appear!!
From previous lessons learnt, never judge anyone in one go..
As Dr.house says Everybody Lies ..true!!! So do you and me..
Lying is ok, but lying for no rhyme or reason is just not ok..😒

Work place comes with all added nonsensical baggage…it’s the same story everywhere..workplace drama is a never ending issue..I better learn to deal wid it..😔

Never trust anyone!!

My dad always tells me believe everybody at the same time don’t believe anybody!!😯🤔

It never made sense..now that I am coming across such weird and varied personalities..I understand what he means!!

Ahhh now I get it!!

So does that make me more wiser with each passing day?? Definitely yes…so much for my Sunday gyaan..😝
Have a happy week ahead everyone.. 🤗

Being Nee #3

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Just thoughts

Hey everyone!!🙋🏻

Happy November!!🍭

My birth month!! So should I be excited??Nah!! Another year, older and wiser???Yess!!!

It‘s been a looong three months and with soo many new developments wasn’t finding time to post anything..🙇🏻‍

WordPress!!!! my solace spot..a place where I express what is going on in my mind..Funnny!! where you are being secretive, yet at the same time wanting to speak your mind and share your views and opinions!!

Thank God for this amazing platform and my lovely reader Friends on whom I can always fall back on and rant away..

The past three months have been really hectic for me..what with us shifting cities and jobs and getting used to the thought of adjusting in a complete new environment!!

More about me..so I hail from Bangalore and now shifted to Andhra Pradesh..both are in the South of India!!

I miss miss the Bangalore climate..nothing as in nothing can beat the Bangalorean weather..Oh I soo soooo miss it even as I am typing away!!😒

This new place is quiet, it is more of a town, not a metro like Bangalore..

I like the people here (or so I thought..opinions change you know)the cost of living too is less, compared to cities, but the weather, god!!!😖

Winter is soon approaching and this place is hot hot hot and burning!!!

I guess my weather woes will continue to reflect in my future posts too..😟

So along with the shift of places..I got to learn soo many new things..I feel soo naive!!

Just entered my thirties and (at this late age 😝) I am still learning things which today’s Gen Z knows already!!! ( They are Gen Z right???)

I feel like one utter clutter pot..

Take for instance my cousin,16 years my junior..teaching me winged eye liner look!!!

Oh lord!!I felt like I came straight from stone age!!!

It is not as if I don’t know how to do it but it takes effort and patiencefor me and she just glides it on like a pro,I felt soo very outdated and for the first time felt olddddd..(mind you, i am just in my early thirties😪) I went boo hoo for the next couple of days!!

Another cousin teaching me about highlighters and contouring and at their age all that mattered to me was ( as if I had a choice) a choice between pink and a red shade of lipstick!!
More such sob sagas coming up..hope to keep posting regularly..and before I sign off do go watch THOR Ragnarok!!

Omg!! One of the most hilarious marvel movie so far..really loved the humour even in tense situations!

Not to do the spoiler act but the scene where Thor and Loki play “Get Help” and Loki refuses to, was real funny…

I am sure this post jumped topics and made no sense as such, but me telling myself it’s ok..just rant away!!

Until next time let the sun get real low!!😜

Have a fab week ahead 😎

2-3 liner Short stories!!

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Thoughts

Hello everyone..🙋

Here’s hoping all a great  weekend..
Not a Gyaani post this time but just a small one sharing a beautiful  message I received..

Most of my friends here might have read this, for those of you who haven’t, this is just a reflection of the small things we fail to stop, see, ponder and cheer up about..

10 Two & three liner short stories..

1) She was very excited today, after all the school was re-opening after a long summer break.
Now, once again, she could start selling stationery at the traffic signal to feed her family.

2) She, a renowned artist and a strict mother, often scolded her 6-year-old son for he could never draw a line straight.
As he breathed slowly into the ventilator, she begged him to make one more crooked line on the ECG.

3) “Everyone goes with the flow… but the one who goes against it becomes someone remarkable.”
Before I could explain this to the traffic police, the man issued me a Fine.

4) Their love was different; She was happy every time he kicked her in the stomach.
Every time he kicked she loved him more. She waited for the time she would hold her baby for the first time.

5) All my toys are yours…!
Read her brother’s death note.

6) They took his father,
and only returned a flag.

7) At 25, I became a mother of one; at 27 I became a mother of two; and today, at 55, I have become a mother of three!
My son got married today, and brought home his wife!

8) “Born to rich parents, this boy is so lucky,” exclaimed the neighbors!
Somewhere in heaven, three unborn sisters cried.

9) “You ruined my career, I was supposed to be an executive director,” she thought to herself.
The little angel held her finger tightly and she forgot everything; A mother was born.

10) Once a 5-year-old boy was standing barefoot in the shallow water of the ocean.
He was repeating the same sentence to the waves – “Even if you touch my feet a thousand times, I won’t forgive you for taking my parents away.